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I've got the keys to my heart

It's mine again

My thoughts, my actions, my decisions

I'm in control again

The lines in the sand have been traced

And I can see the mistakes for what they are


The birds chirp away happily

Singing the ancient lullaby with a frantic calm

And I see the song for what it is

The same as yesterday's

The world didn't stop because you hurt me

The wheels continued to turn

I continued to live even though my will was almost gone

But I refuse to wreck my ship

I choose to hoist my flags

I choose to let my sail down

I choose to live and love myself

The way I deserve to be loved

Not to get back at you

Oh no

But to get back to me

What had blinded me is now the lens through which I see

Because your opinions are opinions

Just not of me

The rivers are empty

I'll fill them no more

But I promise myself to fly

Like my feet will never again touch the floor

Written by

Ojie Femi

MatchMadeInNaija admin

Ladies, guys are not that hard to read. They only pretend to be mysterious when they are having second thoughts about dating you. Here are the signs that would show you that he is interested in having a relationship with you. This article does not in any way tell you that your relationship will be successful but it will just focus on how to know if you should take the step in the first place.

1.       He tells you:

This one is pretty straight forward and is what most ladies want to happen. If he is bold enough to tell you that he wants to have a relationship with you or simply that he is interested in taking you out, you have something special. It is not a conclusive fact however but it points to the fact that you can take a chance with him. I agree that there are some guys who tell girls things that they don’t mean but even those guys have to have some sort of interest in the girl in the first place which leads him to go out of his way to get her.  Generally speaking, if a guy tells you that he really likes you, you should take it seriously.


2.       He makes out time to be with you:

If he is busy and he always makes out time to call, visit, chat or send you gifts, you should know that he is very interested in you. The average guy is focused on his work, family, and friends but he will always give a special place to the woman in his life. His thoughts would be occupied by images of you and he would be very eager to see you at any chance he gets. It is a very important sign. Remember that this is not all men's reaction to people they feel very strongly about and so some men might not exhibit this character but if you see this sign then you can be sure he wants you.


3.       When He opens up about his flaws:

If you are not a bosom friend of a guy then he would never open up his secrets and vulnerabilities to you. If your man is comfortable telling you all his flaws and vulnerabilities and listens to you talk about yours as well, then he is really interested in you. Men are proud beings who are less likely to talk about their fears or failures because they have to show strength. A guy who is ready to be weak in your presence is completely open to a relationship with you.


4.       He talks about planning his future and puts you in his plans:

A man who constantly discusses his plans with you is definitely fond of you but if he gets to the point where he cannot see his future plans without you in them, you have yourself a keeper. There’s no point dating someone who does not have a place for you in his plans or cannot simply align his plans with yours.


5.       He begins to say “We” instead of “I”:

Have you ever asked a person a question and he replied for himself and his partner? It would sound something like this, “We couldn’t make it.” “We don’t like ice-cream.” We’re on a diet.” Ladies, if a guy begins to say these to others, you might as well just start dating him already because he is so interested in you that it has altered his speech. He is a potential Husband material – 100 yards.


6.       If his mother knows you by name:

Seriously, you must mean a whole lot for a guy to introduce you to his mother. If you speak to his mother for the first time and she says “Oh, you are the Jane that I’ve heard so much about…”, he is really taking you seriously. Men hold their mothers in very high esteem and they do not just talk about any random lady with their mothers. It doesn’t matter how old the man is, he will always tell his mother about that special person in his life. If she knows you then you're very special to him.



7.       He gets to know and relates with your family members:

Most guys stay away from the lady’s family if they are not really interested in her. It’s not just worth their time and extra accountability. So if a man decides to get to know your family on a first name basis and is constantly in communication with them even when you are not aware of it, he is absolutely interested in having a relationship with you. He is definitely willing to be accountable to your family about the status of your relationship at every point in time.


There are a lot of ways you can build this interest if it doesn’t exist already and there a lot of signs that are not covered in this article. If there are any ones in particular that you like and feel that they should be added to future articles, let us know in the comments section below. We would love to hear from you.


Written by

Ojie Femi 

MatchMadeInNaija admin

First dates are usually perceived to have an air of trial and error about them but there are ways to prepare for your first date with a girl in order to make it memorable for her. This five-item list is not the ‘Gold Standard’ for every guy going on a first date in Nigeria but it is sure to make you more likely to create an amazing first impression.

1. Call Her Early To Confirm Your Outing.

There’s nothing more disappointing than a girl telling you that something came up, one hour to your date. You can reduce the chances of that happening by calling her earlier in the day. Do not tell her you’re calling to confirm but say something like ‘I can’t wait to see you later today.’ That makes her remember to prioritize your outing over other impulsive activities that could come up at that time.

2. Choose The Venue, Keep It Simple:

Never ever leave the venue to chance. The aim of a first date is to impress the lady enough to make her want to go on a second date so you have to be in control of the variables. What if she picks a restaurant that is out of your price range or a place where they sell Chinese food when all you know how to eat is Nigerian Jollof? Dude, make sure the venue of the first date is somewhere nice, moderate and affordable. Be sure to inform her of the venue beforehand.

3. Have Enough Money To Pay For The Meal, And Then Some.

This is no time to go ‘Dutch.’ No splitting of the bills on the first date. Do not plan for a date with the aim of paying just for two meals. Make sure you are ready to purchase a little extra just in case. Remember that this is not to prove that you can be ‘the man of the house’ but to show that you are a person who is prepared for any situation. If you don’t have a car, make sure that you have enough money to order a ride to take her home.

4. Appear Simple But Stylish

You don’t need gold braces and two chains (pun intended) to impress a girl. You just need to dress based on the type of date you chose. If you chose to take her to Takwa Bay, for example, a simple Vintage Shirt and beach shorts would do. A dinner would require a Tux but not a three-piece suit. Make sure she is aware of the type of function so she can dress accordingly. It would be quite awkward if she wore an evening gown to GET Arena, wouldn’t it?

5. Be Punctual, Plan Your Route And Time.

Check google maps for traffic predictions well ahead of the time for your date. If the venue is 30 minutes away without traffic, leave your house one hour to the time. If you need to pick her up make sure you call well ahead of time so she can get ready. You could also get a ride to pick her up and bring her to the venue while you go ahead and make sure everything is in order.

Now you’re ready to go on the date. You just arrived at the venue and to your delight, everything is in order. She arrives five minutes later and walks in looking like an angel and you give her a semi-flirtatious smile. ‘Why are you smiling?’ She asks. You respond, ‘Well, I’m just so glad that you’re here and I hope that this night would mean to you what you mean to me.’ She blushes, looks at you and with confidence in your voice you say, ‘Shall we begin?’

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