Ladies, if you want to have a successful dating life,
you should take note of things that your man shouldn’t hear.
1. WHEN WILL I SEE YOU AGAIN?
You’ll see him when you see him. If he wants
to see you again, he’ll call. If not, next. You don’t have time for anyone
that doesn’t have time for you.
2. WHY DIDN’T YOU CALL?
There’s only one answer to this question: Because
he didn’t want to!!! What you’re really asking is, “Why didn’t you want to
call me?” Who knows!! There could be a lot of reasons, but you shouldn’t be
sitting around wondering why. You should be out dating lots of different
guys and not worrying about ONE guy. Don’t be so quick to put all your eggs
into one basket, because if they break, it’s a big mess!
3. WHERE WERE YOU?
If he wanted you to know where he was, he’d tell you.
What you’re really asking is, “Where you with another female that you like
better than me?” Your insecurity is showing, my dear. You need to show him
that your time is also as important to you as his. Do something fun or simply
take yourself out and stop bickering about things you have no control over.
4. I LOVE YOU (FIRST)
I know that you are saying this with good
intentions, but if he doesn’t respond what happens? You’ll be devastated
and probably feel foolish. Saying “I love you” is not going to speed things
up if he’s not ready to say it back. So just cool it, and let him be the
first to say it when he’s ready.
5. DID YOU SLEEP WITH HER?
He’s telling you about his exes and there you
are feeling jealous and all. Hey Girl, Watch it! As long as he’s not
sleeping with her now, who cares? The past is gone. Don’t torture yourself
(and him) with these thoughts. In this case, ignorance really is bliss.
6. WHERE IS THIS GOING?
Nowhere fast if that’s your attitude. Guys want
someone fun and easy to be with, not someone that’s constantly worrying
about the future. His actions or non-actions will tell you where it’s
going. If it’s going somewhere, you’ll know it. If it’s not, you’ll know it
too.
7. WE NEED TO TALK.
This is the equivalent of, “Mum is calling you (if you
know, you know)”. Guys know it’s not going to be a fun conversation, so
they’re already on the defensive. If you need to discuss something, just
casually bring it up when the both of you are relaxed. Don’t try to discuss
things when!
8. I HATE YOU!
Even if you do, it’s totally uncalled for and un-lady
like. If there’s an issue, be mature enough to discuss it when you’re calm.
Even if he is breaking up with you and you feel the urge to call him out on
everything, it’s best to remain calm and act unfazed. He’ll wonder why
you’re so cool about it and that may make him re-think his decision. Guys
are always taken aback by calm ladies. We confuse them. Always be pleasant
during a break up. Do you want to be known as the girl that goes psycho if
someone breaks up with her? I didn’t think so.
9. I DON’T TRUST YOU.
What you’re
actually saying is, “You need to step up your game, because I can see
you’re up to something.” If you have no evidence of this, it would be
unwise to start throwing words around. First, it will make him more
cautious if he is actually doing something which makes it even harder to
get the evidence you need to prove your suspicions. Second and even more
damaging is the fact that you could be wrong and hurt his feelings which
would be no fault of his. He’s most likely see you as a crazy person.
It’s hard not to say some of these things but I promise
you that it’s worth the effort. Overtime it will normalize and become a way
of life.